Sometimes you simply don’t want to commit from the start, and neither does your ideal partner. You want a casual fling and you probably want to keep it short. It’s best to approach a new partner with honest intentions and find women who are on the same page as you about where this relationship is going. There are plenty of women out there who want the same thing you do and don’t want to have to take you home to mom. The only thing you need to be acquainted with is her mattress while you have sex occasionally. Once you have a lucky lady in mind, you’ll need to talk with her honestly about keeping things casual.
Have The Talk As Soon As You Can
“Get to the point before things get complicated”
It’s best to get straight to the point and be blunt that you’re really just in this for decent company and sex on a casual basis. If nothing else she will be pleased that you’re being honest and may agree to have sex with you until she finds some one more willing to settle down with her. If she gets pissed and doesn’t want to see you again, it was going to be too much drama to bang her anyway. The sooner you get this talk out the way, the less right she has to be upset with you. You were honest!
Define The Parameters Of Your Casual Relationship
“Define your parameters and go accordingly”
Once the two of you have agreed on a casual relationship, it’s best to define what that means to each other. Do you include dinner or entertainment before sex? Is this just about sex? Is it an open relationship? How often and by what means should you communicate? Be sure to divulge any potentially problematic circumstances that should be avoided, such as “Do not call me at my house my husband might answer.” If you’re willing, go into detail about what is and is not acceptable on an intimate level. Is kissing on the table? Are there any kinks either one of you would like fulfilled? The more you can define what you want from each other, the more successful and fulfilling your casual encounters will be. Keeping low stress a priority is important in a short-term relationship or why bother?
Making Sure Neither Party Gets Too Attached
It’s important to keep things casual if that’s what you’ve agreed to. You can always break up at any time with no guilt, but there are simple ways to avoid things getting too heavy. Keeping an open relationship can help you focus on other so you don’t get too fixated on each other. Threesomes can also help keep the attention off of you or anything too emotional, especially if you choose random third partners. Be sure to spend time apart and seriously make an effort to ignore any behavior, which may be clingy or possessive. If you do start to feel uncomfortable with the direction of your relationship, you can address it or simply check out! Neither of you ever meant for it to last after all!