You might think that there are tons of things that a couple needs to have in common. They need to like the same foods and the same kinds of movies, they need to have the same goals in regards to success and how much they want to travel abroad instead of investing that money into creature comforts at home. You might have a very clear idea of the huge, long checklist that your perfect wife is going to have to have. The truth, however, is that it doesn’t matter if she takes decaf coffee and you don’t see the point. It doesn’t matter whether or not you both like Indian food, or if you have the same favourite author. Those are minor personal preferences. In fact, there are only three things that really matter to the lifelong compatibility of any two people. They’re huge, though. If you don’t agree on at least two of these three points you shouldn’t be dating the person that you are.
How You Manage Money
“Save money and try to invest for your future”
The number one thing that couples fight about most in the world is money. They say that money can’t buy happiness, but it can by financial stability. Most people worry about money. They worry about how to invest it, and they worry about if they’re saving enough of it, and they worry about whether or not they’re going to be able to afford that next vacation. People also have different priorities with money. No one is going to be as unhappy as a saver who’s sharing their bank account with a spender. You and your wife need to have similar financial goals so that you can feel like you’re in a real partnership together. If you know that you absolutely need to have your money one particular way, then you should look for a wife who agrees with you. Otherwise you’re going to be in for a tough life.
“Love is the strongest bond between any couple”
It doesn’t matter what you two are so long as you’re both the same. Athiest couples are as happy as Christian couples who are as happy as Hindu couples. All that matters is that the two of you can agree on what you believe. Interfaith couples do exist and are often happy, but not believing that the love of your life is going to heaven (or having differing opinions on other sacred rights and values) can be extremely taxing for a marriage.
The Biggest Question: Kids
Again, it doesn’t matter what you feel so long as you both feel the same. Outside of money, most people argue about kids. They fight about whether to have them, how to raise them, and exactly how big of a head start they should be given in life through access to their parent’s money. If you don’t want kids that’s totally fine so long as your wife doesn’t either. People who wanted to have children and didn’t because their spouse didn’t want to report the highest unhappiness. Couples who didn’t really want kids but had one anyone also tend to regret a lot in life.